IMPORTANT !!!
For cars before '98 and all around '96 models the cabling doesn't go to the stalk, but under the steering wheel.
If you have a blank there and the black plastic, remove the blank button and see if you have the cables on the back of the button. They should be clipped on the back of the blank button or luying arround if someone unclipped them. In that case you don't have to look for a new stalk, just find the button that's missing and install it. All the cabling should be factory laid already.
If you have this lid under the steereing wheel:
Check for a free connector on the back (exactly where the button is on the picture with the black lid thingy). It may be possible that your cables go under the steering wheel too. In my case there were no cables there.
In both cases the rellay and it's position are identical.