Hi Andy, sorry to hear about your awful experience
Here is how to check your valve timing....this is very much "old school"...
Take off the rocker cover (cam cover) as suggested.
Turn the engine using a 22mm spanner on the crank pulley until the crank pin fits into its slot.
Remove the crank pin for now.
Look at the camshaft and the position of either the front 2 cam lobes or the rear cam lobes (whichever are sticking upwards with the cam pin hole at 8 o clock position).
Now look at the opposite 2 cam lobes eg, number 1 cylinder or number4 cylinder, whichever are now pressing down on the valves, get the 22mm spanner on the crank pulley and gently move the engine backwards and forwards until you feel the cam lobes "rocking" ie, as one is coming up, the other is going down...you want the exact point that they "rock".(Balance).
Next, now you have the "rocking point" check to see if the crank pin will now fit into its hole in the flywheel.
If the pin fits,the timing is correct.
If the pin does not fit, turn the engine until it fits, then remove the timing belt from the cam pulley.
Next, turn the camshaft using a 16mm spanner until you get that rocking point with the cam lobes and refit the timing belt.
Now take out the crank locking pin and do the cam lobe rocking point again and try to fit the crank pin with the rocking point correct, if the crank pin now fits, the valve timing is correct.
Someone may come here and rubbish this suggestion, but this is how we used to set valve timing on engines without marks or locking pins, as I said it's old school method, but it works!
Basically, you need number 1 and number 4 pistons at the top of the cylinder ie, TDC. If when the crank locking pin will fit into its hole, the piston is not at TDC, set number 1 and 4 at TDC and mark it, then take off the belt at the cam pulley and follow the "rocking" procedure.
I hope this helps.